A Fresh Perspective: December 2011

When you first meet someone anything is possible. You will discover if they are a saint or they could be a murderer. They could be a liar or dependable. Pesimistic or optimistic. You don't know. So you give them the benefit of the doubt. I believe people are good. They are capable of doing great things. So I trust them. I trust them until they give me reason not to. I think most of humans are like this. Like a dog and a shock collar. Its all fine and dandy until it zaps you! Then you will shake it off, give it another chance... until it zaps you again. Then you know you offically cannot trust this horrible mechanism desquised as a collar. I can tolerate a lot of things, but I will never tolerate lying. You lie, I give you a second chance. Because I do believe in those. But you lie again, we're done. There are a million reasons for you to lie. To make you seem cooler than you are, to bring someone down to your level, or to simply cover up anything you don't want known. But there are also a million reasons to tell the truth. I hope most people trust me because I have learned that when people don't trust you, your life is crap. You can't take their word for anything, and who knows... maybe they are going off lying to others about you. So I take honesty very seriously. I try my best to be as honest as possible. I mean I'm human so it's not always going to work, but we all have things that are important to us. Surronding myself with people I trust is important to me. I have had people come and go in my life. I have dealt with leaving. I have a wall surrounding my heart with a zipper type of thing. I won't get emotionally deep involved with you until I open up the zipper all the way so you can come all the way in. Kay that sounded kind of weird, but you get the picture. I have learned people do lie. They lie and backstab and cheat. They tell you things and one day they don't mean them anymore. But I have also learned that people can change your life in good ways. They come in like a guest star: there for a certain reason, then they eventually leave. Or they can become perminantly apart of your life. But it's all up to a little thing called fate. Yes I'm one of those corny people who believe in destiny and fate, but only because I believe that Heavenly Father has a hand in every little thing in our life. Who knows when someone you least expect will pop into your life and completely change the game. But you can't go out looking for those people. All you can do is be the best person possible and know that when they do come, you will be ready. I'm talking about future loves and friends. I would have never guessed when my best friend Emma came into my life that I would be so lucky to have someone as her. She holds my hand when I cry and makes me laugh when I'm sad. And even though we are changing, it doesn't matter because we will always be best friends. I will still show up to her dance compeditions and she will be there cheering me on at tennis. And there is Melissa Rassmussen who is always there to here me talk about boys and listen to me freak out (love you lissa!). And Kinzie Meyer who is such a great example to me and who pushes me to put myself out there! I could go on and on about all the beautiful people in my life. I am so blessed! All these bad times lead me to some amazing friends who I wouldn't trade for the world! If you are going through a rough time, just know Heavenly Father will send you someone or something to make the weight a little bit lighter. Trust me, I know from experience :)